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Tom Chandel

I am my kids' dad. I live with them, I help them, I watch them grow.

I had to fight for years to get the privilege to do that. So many years I lived in a hellish twilight of non-parenthood, suffering in a quiet loneliness while missing my dear children I loved so much, a slave only to a cold monetary responsibility.

At first I didn't understand why I was cast aside by the courts, child welfare services, and hounded like an animal by bureaucrats who seemed to think it was their career calling to prosecute men for merely being fathers. I listened to greasy politicians try to curry favor as they promised that they would "MAKE men become better fathers" ...while at the same time those same people were refusing to LET men be fathers.

Eventually I learned that I would have to take that fight on by myself. I was never, nor would I ever be helped one iota by a judge, court, bureaucrat or politician. No government agency or lawyer would ever lift one finger to help me be a father to my children.

I won in the end, but the cost to myself and my children has been high. And all that cost was wasteful and needless.

Men, do not look to the courts, the agencies, the lawyers or public officials to help you. If they wanted to help men be good fathers then they would - but they do not. They offer you only harm, and in the process of exerting their mindless power over you they are too willing to sacrifice your children, and the progeny of our great society, to a life often only of misery and emptiness.

Men, know that it is not your system, nor your government. You are on the outside looking in.

Accept that, and stand up on your own two feet. You do not need them. Be a man - the creator made you proud and strong for a reason. Travel not with fools, for he who does will be destroyed.

You CAN do this yourself.

Tom C.

Brunswick, Maine